一个陌生人的电话 A stranger on the phone

2nd December 2015  /  life upon life

岁月无痕,当我们蓦然回首,翻阅着自己的心灵,总有一段段记忆在生命中留下深深的痕迹,无法忘却,每当我们拾起它时,心里总涌动着一丝久违的冲动,这便是感动。生活里有许多感动,如果你有一双善于发现美的眼睛,你会发现春天小草勃发是一种感动,朋友关怀的眼神是一种感动,父母无私的关爱是一种感动,陌生人的一个电话也是一种感动......生活处处使我感动。暑假期间,我和先生带着儿子去青岛游玩,为了让孩子更多的了解海洋生物,我们去了极地海洋公园,因为是周末,人很多,所以步行过程中我们与先生走散。不巧的是,我的手机没电了,没法联系到先生。当时我第一时间想到的是广播寻人,但是人太多,孩子还小,广播室又离得太远,找广播室确实有点困难,于是我便旁向一卖东西的小姑娘寻问就近是否有公共电话,那小姑娘说这附近好象没有。由于儿子在这里玩兴正浓,加上也并没有急事,也许先生会回过头来找我们,我们就没有马上出去找公用电话,而是继续在那一带玩。过了一会儿,刚才那位女孩又找到我说:“你们是不是找不到电话?要不就用我的电话打一下吧。”我当然很高兴,说“太好了,我给你钱的。”那姑娘说,不要钱的,要钱我就不来找你了! 用她的电话,我和先生联系上了。在广场休息时,吹着习习的凉风,我告诉了先生上述情况。我们都很感动,倒不是打一个电话能省多少钱的事,而是她并不是在别人央求下,而且是在别人已经走开一阵子的情况下又主动去找到别人来无偿让人打这个电话。虽然是微不足道的小事情,但这年头,这种行为却也不多见了。说实话,有时我自己就做不到这样。大约一个月前的一个周日,我们一家3口出去玩,在电影院附近遇到一个提大包裹的小姑娘问路,我们也不知道她要去的小区,看她一脸焦急的样子也只是在心里有一点儿同情罢了。直到过了半个多小时,我们徜徉在公园的优美风光里时,我还在说,也不知道那个女孩找到她要去的地方没有。我那一刻内疚地说,要是让她用我们的手机打一下电话不就得了。先生说,是啊。他就去找那个女孩,但已经不见了。与今天这个女孩相比,我们是多么地惭愧啊!我们当时为什么不能说:来,用我的电话问一下你要去的地方!我一个受过高等教育的自以为道德情操高尚的教师,常常高唱让世界充满爱,每每感叹世风日下,却与这个小姑娘有着多么大的差距啊!这是一件小到不能再小的小事,却给了很大很大的教育,一下子触动我们的心灵。为什么我们现在高唱和谐社会的人很多,但真正践行助人为乐的却越来越少?一方面是人心不古,没钱的事少有人做。一方面是骗局太多,人们不敢轻易帮助人,因帮助人被讹诈的事情经常发生。以至于你就是真心想帮助别人,有时被帮助者也会怀疑你的动机。你在大街上看到一个人提两三个重包,如果你要帮他(她)提,往往会遭拒绝,有的会礼貌地说谢谢,不用帮,有的也许会对你横眉冷对,有的甚至会以一副一眼看穿你不良动机的表情让你顿感尴尬。当我们面对别人的求助,为什么我们会在第一时间考虑是不是骗局?为什么我们认为可能这次不是骗局而后,我们仍然可以用害怕受骗的堂皇理由扬长而去?我们这是怎么了?是我们的社会病了,还是我们自己病入膏肓了?让我们大声呼喊,携手捍卫“助人为乐是一种美德,要从日常小事做起,不因善小而不为,应当在朋友正是困难的时候给予帮助,不可在事情已经无望之后再说闲话”的真理吧!张蓓Time flies without any trace!! When we suddenly look back on our days and flip through our mind, there is always a series of memories that will leave a deep mark in our life—unforgettable. Whenever we pick up it, a strange impulse will come out of our heart, it is to be TOUCHED. There are many TOUCHED in our ordinary lives, if you have a pair of good eyes to find beauty, you will find grass breaking out in the Spring as a kind of touched moment, the kind eyes from friends is a kind of touched moment, parents' selfless love is a kind of touched moment, a stranger’s phone is a kind of touched moment...Life often moves me. During the summer vacation when my husband and I brought our son to visit Qingdao, we went to the polar Ocean Park in order to make him learn more about the sea creatures. Because it was the weekend and there were too many people, we were separated by crowds when walking. Unfortunately, my mobile phone was power off at that moment and failed to keep in touch with my husband. I first thought to look for him by broadcasting but it was really difficult to look for a studio because there were too many people, our child was young and it was too far away from the broadcasting room. Then I asked a little girl who was selling items near me whether there is a public telephone in the area and she answered NO. We kept playing in that area instead of setting out to look for public telephone booth because of three reaons--my son was interested in playing, I did not have urgency maybe my husband will come back to find us. After a while, young girl came near and said to me: " Can't you find the phone? Pls use my phone to call your relative." I was definitely very happy and said "so great thank you, at least let me give you money." The girl said, “I don't need money.” With her telephone, I contacted with my husband. During the break in the square when enjoying cool wind, I told my husband the situation. Both of us were moved. It was not because the free phone call saved us money, but because she was so positive to find people who needed help and offer her phone to use without any request. Although it was a trivial thing, this kind of behaviour is rare. To be honest, sometimes I wouldn't be able to do something like that. One Sunday about a month ago, our family of three went out to play and encountered a little girl carrying a large package near the movie theatre, asking us the way, we didn't know the place she wanted to go and just appeared a little sympathy in our mind when looking at her anxious face. Until more than half an hour later when we were walking in the park and enjoyed beautiful scenery, I still said to my husband "we still don't know whether that girl has found the place she needed to get to”. At the moment I felt guilty, and I said "if I offered for her to use our mobile phone to call, it will be better”. He agreed ”Yes “and then we looked for that little girl but failed. Compared with the girl today, how ashamed we are! Why can't we say "here, use my phone to find out where you are going!”I, who received high level education and have high moral ethics and often exclaim to make the world full of love, have a big gap compared to the girl who helped us in the polar park. This is a most trivial thing but teaches us such an important lesson that touches our hearts. So many people preach about helping someone else, to build a harmonious society, but few put it into practice. On the one hand there is much depravity, few people will do without money. Some because there are so many lies that people dare not to help others. People are often blackmailed after offering help. This symptom is so serious that your motivation will be doubted even if you want to help someone else sincerely. You tend to refuse to help when you see a man in the street with two or three heavy bags who is struggling, some will politely say thank you and not need help. Some may be looking at you without any expression, some will seem like you have bad motives which will cause you to feel embarrassed. When we are faced with others' help, why do we consider whether it is a scam in the first instance? Why do we created an excuse and feel  scared even if we think it’s not a scam. What has happened to us? Is our society sick? Let's shout loudly, and defend hand in hand "helping others is a virtue. Let us start from the daily affairs –DO NOT DENY HELP BECAUSE OF THE TRIVIALS! Let’s also help friends when in dilemma”Zhang Bei